Do You Know What It's Like? -

How do you feel when you hear the words “I like you”?

Does it get you flashing an instant smile? Do you get the thrills?

I’m sure these words make the heart smile among other truths.

Regardless of who said it, you are flattered. And it motivates you to keep that impression there.

When your boyfriend tells you this, does it give you the chills as if your all time crush was saying it?

When your ex- tells you this, does it give you the chills as if your boyfriend was saying it?

Think. 

How do you feel when you hear the words “I care for you”?

And you hear those words from somebody else.

I’m sure it’s easy to believe how comforting those words are.

But does it make you feel awkward to hear it from another voice?

Or do you like the idea of having so many flings care for you?

When a suitor tells you this, how far do you go to entertain?

Think.

How do you feel when you hear the words “I love you”?

Now these words are deep and packed with meaning.

When your boyfriend tells you this, does it give you the thrills and your heart goes melting?

When a crush tells you this, does it give you the same feeling?

If someone wants or tries to kiss you, would you let him do it?

Regardless if you like the person or not, if you want to kiss, would you kiss someone else?

I’m sure you won’t even need to think.

What happens in a bar where you and your friends hang out with some acquaintances and everybody expects you to flirt around and play around like you would if you were single?

What happens if you spent some time alone with a good friend who apparently admits that he likes you and expresses he wants to be together with you?

Let me tell you a story I will never forget.

John, from the first sight was no doubt a good-looking guy. He was a nice guy and he gets along with everybody else, even with Nikko who seems to be the hyperactive easy-go-lucky type. I was introduced to them days before we went to this bar with all the others. I know my friends and what they can do; likewise they know me and how far I go to break my limitations. The only difference was that time I was already in a relationship. I had a boyfriend, and he was there just a few hours ago.

I was tipsy but I was also called “boring” for not giving Nikko a lap dance. It was a joke and I wouldn’t have cared even if it was not. I gave my girls little smacks as it was an easier dare for the girls. My friends were drunk, but they could do that 24/7 nonstop (to exaggerate). It was John’s turn to spin the bottle, and he was dared to kiss my friend. He was all smiles while everyone expects him to do the challenge. My friend was excited, I could tell; and everybody else pushed them closer to each other.

“Wait. I’m not supposed to do it for real, right?” John asked.

Everybody started booing him and at first I just thought maybe he didn’t like my friend at all. They shouted “do it!” and looking at him I knew right there he was a little bit pressured between having fun and his commitment.

“But… I have a girlfriend...” John said, still smiling.

I was right. And I couldn’t help admiring him for the courage to say that in front of the group. It was weird that I felt so happy for his girlfriend back home, even if I didn’t know her. For a man like John, she has nothing to worry. I felt for him, somehow, and truly if you have that firm understanding of your commitment, nobody can come to break that. ‘Cause it would have been broken if John let it. It’s simple as that. And by this simple act you can tell what kind of a man he is.

Know your limitations. This isn’t something you ought to discuss with your partner. It’s something innate.